How is Your Self-Esteem?
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We have an interesting post on Your Self-Esteem! Practical advice you can use TODAY…before you read this make sure you take three deep breaths: Clear your mind….
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So how is your self-esteem? Be honest. Do you NOT feel good about yourself? Do you focus on your weaknesses instead of paying attention to your strengths?
If you answer yes, to the above questions you may have low self-esteem. You can change this…..
Let’s define High Self-Esteem – five points:
1) You feel good, happy, satisfied about yourself,
2) You are capable of achieving anything,
3) You have lots of energy,
4) You are focused, confident and persistent to visit success anytime.
5) Other people’s opinions should never be the most important thing in your life.
High or Low Self-Esteem or somewhere in the middle?? I invite you to take a quiz and here is why…..
This is a quiz I developed from (use with my clients) The Rosenberg self-esteem test is probably the most commonly used and best known measuring tool for self-esteem. It was designed in 1965 by Morris Rosenberg and is still being used today.
Morris Rosenberg was a Professor of Sociology at the University of Maryland from 1975 until his death in 1992. He is known all over the world for his work on self-esteem and self-concept.
Quiz on YOUR self-esteem
A quiz for self-esteem is a way for you to determine how you see yourself. By being honest with yourself as to where you are today, you can see where you need to make improvements.
Your self-image is how you evaluate your own life, how you feel about your job, your relationships and where you’re going.
How do you really feel about yourself? Do you have a harsh, negative opinion of yourself? Find out what kind of self-image you have by taking the quiz for self-esteem below.
For each question, choose one of the following answers. The number next to the answer represents how many points that answer is worth. Total your scores…..
1 – Never 2 – Rarely 3 – Sometimes 4 – Usually 5 – Always
1. You express your opinions openly. _____
2. You have no fear of being rejected by other people _____
3. When you have to make a major decision that affects mostly you (such as changing jobs), you may consult with other people, but the final decision is your own. _____
4. You forgive yourself for your mistakes. _____
5. You believe you deserve the best life has to offer. ____
6. You accept yourself for being the way you are. _____
7. You are able to express your feelings, both positive and negative. _____
8. You set aside some time just for you. _____
9. You ask for help when you need it. _____
10. You will return an unsatisfactory item to a store. _____
11. You don’t worry about what others think of you. _____
12. If you are dissatisfied with an important part of your life, you will take steps to make a change. ____
13. You are comfortable making eye contact with other people. ____
14. When criticized, you listen, but don’t take it personally. ____
15. You are comfortable trying new things. ____
16. You can make a list of your accomplishments and/or positive qualities without a great deal of difficulty. ____
17. You are comfortable around successful people. ____
18. You believe you can handle anything. ____
Your Total: ______
What your scores on the quiz for self-esteem mean?
0 – 18: Time to Change – You question every decision you make and are crippled by lack of self-respect. Your self-esteem is dangerously low and you MUST make improving your self-esteem a #1 priority in your life.
19–36: Signs of Trouble -You believe other people are worth more than you are. Your self-esteem is shaky at best and needs work.
37-54: Middle of the Road -You have days when you think you’re doing ok, and days when you question everything you do. Work on believing in yourself a little more, and everything will fall into place.
55-72: On the right track -Your faith in yourself is on the right track, but can use improvement. Practice recognizing each small accomplishment and your self-esteem will start to soar.
73-90: Solid self-esteem -No one has to tell you that you’re ok! You have a healthy sense of self-respect and rarely, if ever, question your decisions. You learn from your mistakes instead of dwelling on them. Keep up the good work!
Now that you have taken the quiz and tallied your results, here are Dr. Joy’s – Strategies For Achieving High Self-Esteem
1) Picture yourself succeeding. Whatever challenge you’re trying to face, work on believing that you will succeed. Being successful doesn’t always happen with the first burst of effort. Imagine yourself attaining your goals, and keep reminding yourself that you don’t lose unless you quit.
2) Love yourself. Low self-esteem often comes about by being other-focused. If you are looking for approval from someone else and they won’t give it to you, you can’t win. If instead you offer yourself love and approval no matter what, then you win no matter what the outcome of any given event.
3) Work toward your goals. If you want a better job but believe you can’t get one, you’re right if you never get off the couch. If instead you send out a hundred resumes, you deserve self-respect just for making the effort. Break your goals into small steps that you can reach, such as sending out five or ten resumes a day. Be proud of yourself for each small step attained.
4) Notice what you do right on a daily basis. Each night before you go to bed, think about all of the things you did right that day. You can either do this on paper or mentally, but this is a habit that is one of the key methods of building high self-esteem.
5) Learn from your mistakes. A person with low self-esteem is crippled by their mistakes. Every mistake is an opportunity to learn something and to choose to do something differently the next time around. Make it a point to find the lesson in each loss and move on.
6) Take time to do things you enjoy and perhaps learn something new.
7) Think positive. Positive thoughts will result in Positive Actions and Results.
8) Exercise. Yes, I said the “E” Word.
9) List five strengths you have. Yes, I said YOUR Strengths…you have many, so start your list!
Last but certainly not least – Keep a log listing every nice thing that is ever said about you. A collection of little compliments and memories of praise can give you courage and strength on difficult days.
Be Blessed, Stay Healthy!
See ya!
Dr. Joy
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